OK! Quick questions for you: How many times have you been in situations where things just didn’t work for you? Or that day, when everything seemed to be going? Or that project, where you couldn’t get the work done right?
Well, a few weeks back I had to go for not just one but two pitches, (Oh! The time when it pours, it pours). I was super excited and kicked to present my work and hoping that I’d get the work, however, a few days before the pitch my laptop started getting, what I call, as “panic attacks.” The OS in my laptop got updated and since then the software in my system started acting up. My internet stopped working, my office tools didn’t function and I couldn’t access some of my files. I was practically staring at my screen, almost in tears, thinking what am I supposed to do NOW. It was a disaster! I experienced Murphy’s law at it’s best. And even though I am a good planner Continue reading “What did I do when Murphy ‘s law actually came true?”
How often do you like getting praised? Let’s be honest, we all love being praised for ALL THE GOOD WORK that we’re doing and have been doing in the world. This is “considered” as one of the biggest motivators at work and in life; when in reality, that is just not true. Our motivation comes from within and not from external praise (read on… you’ll see what I mean).
There are multiple ways in which we seek and give feedback, but mostly, we look for praise, rather than criticism. Who likes criticisms whether at work or in life, anyways? In this vicious cycle let’s ask ourselves these questions: Are we getting too praise dependent? Do we get disappointed when we see or hear criticism? Or get demotivated when we don’t get praised? I believe a large number of times, YES! Whether it is at work or in life, we think people around should “naturally” feel obliged to praise our work. While I do think it is important to say good things about the effort of another person… often it doesn’t occur to us to tell people who look naturally good with work that they’re good.
Well, I believe a large number of times the answer is – YES! Whether at work or in life, we think people should “naturally” feel obliged to praise and appreciate our contributions (maybe our documents, our strategies, our methods, our cooking, our behavior, etc. And not criticize it). While I do agree Continue reading “Let’s not get too praise dependent.”
During my post graduate program, my media research professor would always emphasize on this statement “never assume anything” it is deadly for your research. Well, it was certainly true then and it holds true in most of our life and work situations.
Can’t understand what I am talking about? Well, you will be able to… just keep reading. There is so much going on in our world and half the time we are simply assuming things. Assuming that someone knows something, assuming that people are stupid or even smart, or that we assume that “we’re better than others” or maybe not. All this chit chat in our head is nothing else but assumptions that we are making about our surroundings and even ourselves.
There is no doubt that assumptions lead to Continue reading “Why assumptions can be deadly at work or in life.”
If you may recall, a few weeks back I’d written a post for you that you have what it takes to be a leader. That post also talks about what is true leadership actually means. Before I start, I want you to consider these questions: Have you ever been in a position where someone has led the way for you, whether in an organization or in personal life? How often was that leader charismatic in leading the way for you? Was the person supportive of your ambitions, thoughts, emotions and genuine situations? Did the person empathize? Did they challenge you to be your best selves, in the right way? Did they motivate you and inspire you to stay true to your goal? I can go on and on… but you get the gist, right?
I’ve been informally studying personal conduct, workplace relationships, and even salesmanship for a while. The one thing that stands out for me is how emotions, whether positive and negative, truly set the stage for effective personal and professional leadership. Whether we want to establish trustworthy, long-term relationships or want to influence others, motivate them or simply lead effectively, we need project better thoughts and emotions.
Whether we are entrepreneurs, intrapreneurs, executives or just a happy relationships persons, we can lead and influence people significantly with Continue reading “Lead with good emotions.”
I recently revisited the movie Interstellar and there’s a dialogue between Cooper and Tars which goes something like this:
Cooper: Hey TARS, what’s your honesty parameter
TARS: 90 percent.
Cooper: 90 percent?
TARS: Absolute honesty isn’t always the most diplomatic nor the safest form of communication with emotional beings.
Cooper: Okay, 90 percent it is.
It caught my attention and got me thinking in multiple ways. I find TARS absolutely charming and genuinely fun in the movie. If you’ve seen the film, you may remember the above scene. It got me thinking about the way we conduct our relationships, whether personally or professionally. We often alter the way we think and feel in our hearts, for whatever reasons, and become dishonest in our responses. How many times have you questioned yourselves if “honesty is the best policy?” This is one statement that has been told to us since we were kids. We might have even followed it when we were young but wonder what happens to us as we grow up.
Well, what if I were to tell you that you could get your way around situations without being dishonest? I’m here to get you out of that sticky situation where you feel obliged to not speak your mind and heart. Here are five factors for you to consider:-
Continue reading “You can be diplomatically honest at work and in life.”
My husband and I, both, are in the field of training, learning and development. I am a millennial and he is a baby boomer. However, I would vouch that he has traits “of a millennial” than I do. So, we often have some really fun and interesting conversations regarding personal development, lifelong learning, skills enhancement and training (Yes, we have some fireworks too ;0). It is believed that each demographic cohort, engages and learns in different ways, however, I beg to differ. I recently reviewed literature for my doctoral program on learning preferences and styles. My study also revealed that since individuals as such are unique, they do learn in their own unique ways. Perhaps the demographic classification doesn’t aid in any better training/teaching or even learning. However, there are key indicators which suggest learning can be made interesting and meaningful for all cohorts, with just a little bit of MAGEC (see below).
Oh, before, I head on to the MAGEC terms, I would urge you to check out the I’d written an article for TD magazine, regarding what millennials want and yes they do want to learn. I’d highlighted the ways in which millennials want to learn, evolve and grow, personally and professionally. We often
Continue reading “Gen Z, Millennials, Baby Boomers, or Others: Do we need to learn different things differently?”
In the coming few days, I’m sure you’ll be seeing a lot of posts on social media and content websites, which talk about new year goals, resolutions, and opportunities. I have to agree, I’ve been guilty of doing the same. However, I’ve realized how much pressure it puts on an individual to create resolutions and to find ways to sustain them in the new year.
Whether we are the “happy-go-lucky kinds” or the “oh-so-serious type” or even the “unmoved nonchalant,” it is almost inevitable to not examine some areas of our life once the new year sets in. We often think about making some changes in our life that make us better, whether financially, socially, personally, or even professionally.
Setting new year resolutions has been a long lasting fad, which only puts pressure on a person to set the resolutions for situations or things that they already feel they are a failure at
Continue reading ““What have you decided for the new year?””
I recently watched a TED talk which kept iterating that the concept of self-improvement is stupid because it makes one feel, “I am not enough.” For a moment I gave into that thought but thankfully something inside me side said, “what nonsense.” I immediately snapped out of it and began to think from a third person’s point of view. I still couldn’t come to agree that self-improvement harms anyone. In fact, this is exactly the mentality we need to get rid off. I got so irked by that video that I thought, I must write about the virtues of self-improvement.
First, the things that I must explain are the terms self-improvement and self-help. They do not indicate Continue reading “Why self-improvement is the way to go in 2017.”
Whenever it’s December, I think of Steven Hawking’s book, A Brief History of Time, particularly his chapter on Time and Space. It makes you realize time is actually such a relative concept, for some, the year must have swooshed by and for some, it might have been a drag. Well, regardless of how it was for you… it is true that for most of us, December is the contemplative month, whether one chooses to reflect upon the year almost gone by, formally (at work or in business) or informally (for personal improvement and personal development). It is integral to reflect and understand, two things: 1) what went right in the year, 2) what went wrong so that things can be better from here on.
TE has grown to have its own wonderful audience and I am thankful for all those who diligently wait for Sunday posts and the strategic insights I email once a week.
Over the past one year, I’ve made some significant changes in my personal and professional life, to not only grow in the consulting space but also have a growth mindset. It has taught me Continue reading “2016 in review: Top 20 TE blogs and what my consulting business taught me.”
How many times have you heard this -“be a Yes person.”? People often tell us that we need to say yes to all opportunities that come our way or simply commit to things at work, no matter what. However, have you wondered what that really does to you? Often, being the yes person could make you over commit at work or even in life. Not only can it drain your energies but also make you unproductive. It is all about putting your act together to set your boundaries right. And no, I am not asking you to say NO to everything in life. 🙂 You’ll see what I mean…
It is important to set certain Continue reading “The importance of saying – ‘No.’”