I am a type A personality, and an MBTI type of ENTJ, which makes me a leader who really pushes herself to move ahead, get things done faster and quicker (You can read my articles on Extroverts and Introverts to know more about MBTI Types). My types can sometimes come across as pushy and commanding because of my preferential and innate ability to manage, set goals and reach higher outcomes, without deterring. I am the type you come to, to ensure you GET THE JOB DONE. And not just done, get it done better and faster. I run a competition with my own self and while I am in that race, I tend to overlook certain situations of people around me, unintentionally. I soon realized that while I am getting the work done, people around me weren’t feeling comfortable and secure. Without even verbally saying it, I made them feel that I am not interested to listen to your situations, which in the human world is the worst one could do. However it wasn’t intentional, neither was I wrong in my expectations nor were the people wrong in their situations. It was only lack of compassion from our end.
I am using my example in this case, since it is easier to explain so simply where and how we may lose people’s attention and motivation, if we aren’t compassionate. My types would come across as judgemental, over-commanding and arrogant when in reality neither am I like that nor the others of my types are like that as well. It is just a deep urge that we have to ACHIEVE things [it is our staple for life and what success looks like to us]. Especially for people like me, who feel a deep urge to reach higher and achieve more, actually forget about the needs and requirements of another person, while getting consumed with an end goal in mind. That’s where compassion comes in.
From big, small and medium organizations to individuals, in everyday life, we are turning to a simple emotion (or a skill as I call it), which is highly regarded, at work and in personal life: COMPASSION! No matter which background you come from professionally, whether you are an entrepreneur, or belong to any kind of corporate sector, education sector, healthcare or even simply just want to lead a more meaningful and better lifestyle, compassion is the most integral skill you need.
Our lifestyle these days, demands this kind of an attitude [sort of], and we IGNORE another person’s feelings, emotions and even situations often times. I happened to misunderstand someone’s genuine feelings once at work and I really regretted not being compassionate at that moment, once I realized it.
The mental shift towards compassion can occur, but it takes a concious mind training to develop a simple understanding of compassion. Organizations and individuals are choosing THIS skill over others and it has become a driving force for better performance, maximizing potential and achieve higher outcomes.
As individuals and then as a group (society or organizations), we aren’t new to the idea that any kind of change for the better leads to enhanced performance and compassion can pave way for it – this is why:
- It is the feel good factor for better environment: Once you start activating your compassion skills you will immediately notice a difference in behavioral patters, which drive results and allow individuals to be happy, stay in their highest esteem and remain positive towards the tasks (be it anywhere, you’d especially notice this phenomenon in healthcare.) If you are a leader, you especially need this skill.
- It makes you a better leader and communicator: Whether at work, or in play or any sphere of life, when we tend to be more compassionate, we are noticed as better leaders and highly effective communicators, because we aren’t just getting the job done, while understanding the needs and requirements of another person, we are also making them feel valued, which an effective leader and communicator does.
- It paves way for honesty and happiness: When we rely on compassion and choose it as a way of life, we are fully present in situations, in more effective way. Thus, we then tend to balance work, organizations, home and societies with more zeal. We can be more honest in situations, which leads to a delightful and secure environment, at work or at home.
- It helps in de-stressing: Stress can easily become distress in situations at work or in life. When we have compassionate people around we tend to lower not only the stress levels but also the heart rate. Since we understand that someone understands our situations it makes people feel better, calmer and composed.
- It makes you popular and likeable: Though no one is running a popularity contest here but I do mean it, when you tend to become more compassionate about another person or situation, you are observed as a person, who can be trusted, liked and who genuinely appeals to someone.
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