Keep the eye on the prize: How to never lose focus at work or in life.

I am what a lot of people would commonly call, “jack of all trades.” But the term I coined and prefer is, multi-aspirational. Honestly, when it comes to being passionate about work, hobbies, and professions, there are several multi-aspirational or should we say, multi-passionate folks like us, in all walks of life. Largely, most successful entrepreneurs and geniuses of the world have been multi-aspirational. They’ve loved doing not just one thing but dirtying their hands with multiple things. The best example is that of this kind has been my favorite, Leonardo Da Vinci. He is referred to as the polymath, someone who has knowledge for multiple areas of life.

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Leon B. Alberti a multi-aspirational guy, but largely referred to as a famous  Italian architect, once said, “a human can do all things if (s)he wills“. And I completely agree. However, it is the thought of disruption that scares us. We are capable of doing many things and maybe many of them even better. There is no harm in pursuing multiple aspirations, however, Continue reading “Keep the eye on the prize: How to never lose focus at work or in life.”

Break through the clutter: Be your most genuine self, at work, and in life.

Hey! Are you questioning yourself already: “What? Now, am I not being genuine?” If you’re asking yourselves that, then I am glad. We need to do that self check-in often in our relationships, whether personal or professional, to see if something doesn’t feel right. Are we alienating our true nature to present ourselves as something or someone that we aren’t? Whether it is through our self-expression via clothes or conversations or what we decide to share or like or post on social media? Yes, we’ve all been there, however, the point is, to NOT get stuck in that unauthentic zone, indefinitely, right? Yeah, because, when we really aren’t our true selves, not only is it mentally exhausting, but it also makes us less likable, kills our creativity, damages our communications skills, and makes less productive too.

We’ve all had a fair share of inauthentic behaviors. We’ve been there, however, the point is, to NOT get stuck in that unauthentic zone, indefinitely, right? Because, when we really aren’t our true selves, not only is it mentally exhausting, but it also makes us less likable, kills our creativity, damages our communications skills, and makes less productive too. Not to mention, when we try to act, what we truly really aren’t people can feel it. And we know how that feels, right?

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I’ve been doing a bit of research in this context, lately and found through my literature that 90% of people try to act as someone else: perhaps acting as though they know it all and don’t need any further education; or perhaps they are so over productive when they are actually not; or act as though they are in a space where they are far ahead or way up the ladder, when it actually may not be the case. These unauthentic self-expressions occur in various walks of life and because of multiple social and psychological baggages.

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Build your support system without being a PITA.

Men and women are wired differently and by know it! We not only admit it but also understand how to work our ways around it. Men and women form connections differently, whether at work or in social life. While men have a more “Oh! Bro!” kinds approach, women [let me put this: largely] have, “Oh! No” kinda approach. The nexus of men is more supportive with each other, whether or not they can truly provide any helps, when needed. Whereas, the nexus of women, either rarely exists (especially at the workplace), or is a PITA (pain in the ass) in social settings.

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Well, thankfully, I do have a strong nexus of women, consisting of supportive family members, close friends and even colleagues who are always there, either to lend a shoulder or an ear or simply just be there. Building a support system is crucial to one’s success, whether at work or in life. I am not an expert on this topic though but I am definitely a keen observer and have been a researcher. I had to write about this. You’ll read why. When a client of mine approached me with a critical question, I knew I had to write about it.

This lady wanted to improve her performance through coaching in communications skills. She felt that she needed to hone her personal and professional negotiation to ensure that she was “heard,” that she was understood, ” so that she stood out with her leadership & domain skills. She felt that she was unsupported in a male dominated environment. She also felt that her female colleagues were either too consumed to competitive to climb the ladder or were extremely “negative (or should I use the B-word) to other women.”

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Ladies: Lead like a girl. Just as your heart desires!

Just because my headline calls out to the ladies, it doesn’t mean this isn’t a good read for the men. 🙂 In fact, men, you play a huge role in our lives, whether as a spouse, a friend or a colleague may be. It is not only important to be there, say encouraging your women to be their best possible versions, just as how women have been doing for many years. It is all about creating a balance of good emotions, attitude and positive outcomes.

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In our day to day lives, women tend to direct, lead and drive results at home, largely. They are the ones taking care of the family, multi-tasking (listening to kids while cooking or watching TV while completing household chores), running errands, and in some cases, all this happens while they are managing work. However, I wouldn’t deny, there are some who we’d be wondering, ‘if they do anything besides breathing out carbon dioxide.’ Don’t take me wrong, I am not judging! Rather, I’d say, ‘good for them. Maybe they know what they’re doing! It’s a good life.’  They have my respects… but personally, I would still prefer it another way. And BOTH ARE OK!

It is true and there is tons of research out there, which suggests that no matter how much or how little a woman does, we are constantly Continue reading “Ladies: Lead like a girl. Just as your heart desires!”