Overwhelmed with To-Do’s, personal expectations and “not good enough” mentality? This is your post.

I almost broke down the other day with a friend of mine (thank god for beautiful and understanding friends… And yes, I am a high performing individual, who has her low moments too). So, I was overwhelmed that I had sooo many upcoming projects, all of which were well planned, but somethings still landed on my lap unexpectedly and to top it all, I got sick. I had to clasp them all together, because, I had specifically planned downtime in the coming week, which was a non-negotiable time for me. So what happened in my present moment was that my mind was preoccupied. I was overwhelmed. And what whirled in my head: “I’ve too many things to do in my life.” I kept repeating the following, “I have to do my

  • complete upcoming doctoral projects;”
  • do more client pitches (anyone in business knows what’s this feels like 😉);”
  • plan and create content for an upcoming workshop;”
  • evaluate prospective businesses or partnerships;”
  • plan speaking engagements; and THE next move;”
  • and I have to cook my healthy meals and clean the utensils post that, put my clothes for laundry, dry them and fold them and of course, my non-negotiable workout routine.”


Phew!!! And guess what, in that state, I got nothing done. That my friends, is all in a day’s work. With a little bit of math, one can tell, this requires a lot of time and that 24 may fall short. Imagine, when all this goes through your head and your body is exhausted… what do you feel? Overwhelmed, right? You’re unable to accomplish ANYTHING. To top it up, you receive a crude comment, either from a family member, or a client or some nasty little hater… which makes you question all your effort and hard work. Sometimes YOU LITERALLY WANNA BREAK SOMEONE’S HEAD because you’re already doing your best and life just comes in the way.

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Is your brain being an ageist? Here’s how you can kick ageism’s ass.

If one thing’s true, it’s the fact that we aren’t getting any younger, chronologically. Hey!!! Don’t get offended by that. It’s a fact. And THAT’s OKAY! But we need to stop telling ourselves that we are too old or too young to do something that we truly desire.

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Recently, a friend of mine and I were talking about hitting our milestone birthday, this year. She started saying that she expected herself to have been so much ahead by now: academically, socially, and even financially. I thought she was doing pretty well, as per what I saw, however, she wasn’t convinced. I remember looking at her and thinking, she’s always been such a spirited, fun woman, who enjoyed her life no matter what bumpers came in the way. Suddenly, she stopped it all. She felt she was too old for anything to accomplish anymore (mind you she’s only turning 30): So, too old to party, or too old to wear the trendy clothes, or even too old start her own company, or even get the job that she most desired (Seriously). Now, obviously my face dropped, because I didn’t expect HER to feel this way. But then I realized we’ve all been there… in this very same situation.

We’ve been made to feel that a certain age is our “peak” whether this belief set in from our immediate family circle, or society at large, or stereotypically by the media… it has been ingrained in us. We think, given a certain age, we need to achieve EVERYTHING or else we’re DOOMED! How silly is that. I completely disagree! All ages are our peaks. We’re doing and can do our best of best, at any given age, if we set our heart and mind to it. Our mind’s a bloody ageist. We’ve been successfully conditioned into believing that we’re productive only at a certain age, or can be fit at a certain age, or can start a business or change careers certain age or live life to the fullest until a certain age or one of the biggies for the women, stay beautiful only until a certain age. The list is endless! And we need to put an end to it. If you’ve ever struggled with your mind or people around you being “ageist,” you gotta visit the steps down below.


  1. Simply embrace your real self and remind yourself of this Dr. Seus Quote: This is hands down my mantra in life: “Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You.” No matter where you stand, what you have, what you’ve done, what you can do… all that matters today, is that there cannot be another human being like YOU. Your DNA is special and can do miraculous things, perhaps you’re already doing it. So, give yourself some credit, embrace your true self, regardless of age. Stop your critical mind to add another segment, to govern your life.
  2. Challenge the status quo in your head: Every time you’re in a situation where you believe, you should’ve been further ahead, or you’re too old to do something or the “right age” is gone…. remind yourself that today, we may think yesterday was better or tomorrow, we may feel the next time would be better. So, what happens to the present moment? We’re sucked into this thought process, again and again. Remind yourself that THIS IS YOUR PEAK. Today is what you have, you can challenge the status quo in your head that defines or draws the strong lines against what is possible and what is not possible to do given your age or even someone else’s.
  3. Question and find your ‘why & how’ in every aspect of your life: As Simon Sinek rightly says, it is important to look for what matters to you and WHY is it important. No matter, what your ambition or goal or want is… in a given moment, all you need is a drive, to pursue it. Age, circumstances etc. will truly seem like secondary things. You need to understand WHY does it (your goal, ambition, or task) matter to you and HOW will it make you FEEL once you’ve accomplished it. Sometimes, we’re actually scared to think believe that we can start where were are, we aren’t too old or too young to do pursue our calling.
  4. When in doubt or fear, look up for inspiration or your tribe: A little bit of inspiration definitely goes a long way. Oh! And if you specifically look at it in areas of your interest and define it under the umbrella of age, you’ll realize, so many people have reached their ideas of success on their own terms, given their real age, no matter what. Often it is fear driving us. As much as fear is important for our survival, (cause definitely it saves us every single time to not get hit by a car on a high-speed road), it also hinders our growth in certain areas of life. Our fear will tell us in the gym to not to keep holding that squat or plank for a minute, cause it hurts even though we know it’s good for our muscles. Fear would tell us that we’ll get hurt. But think about it, sometimes our fear can be so stupid. It makes us doubt our ability to do something. More often we blanket this fear to do something constructive or try something new, under the umbrella of inappropriate age-based activity. Then, we doubt ourselves, our credibility and more. These are the times when you should use GOOGLE and find other people in the same areas who have challenged the status quo without regret. Chances are high that in EVERY sphere you will find some inspiration or even like-minded tribe. If not, you can be the FIRST one, because you CAN.
  5. Just try and do the work: Finally, you will only know or be able to break free from the ageist mind of yours when you actually set out to do the WORK. Just go ahead and try things, test the waters. Do it and prove it that age is just a number in any aspect of life. 🙂

Now you tell me about your aegist brain. Do you have an aegist brain that tells you, “you’re too old or too young to do something?” Have you snapped out of it? If yes, what did you do? Or do you struggle with this thinking… tell us why in comments below.


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Perfectionism is a procrastination syndrome, to not get anything done?

Yesss! That is so true. And I used to be the queen of perfectionism. I would love to tell myself, that even though I had been a perfectionist, I wasn’t a procrastinator (perhaps the world may not perceive me to be, but I was). I used to get a lot of things done easily. I think I still have the knack to do it but I am slowing myself down.


I’m truly a perfectionist at heart. What better example than this very post. I procrastinated it the whole week and kept pushing it to Saturday, because, I felt that I wasn’t ready yet with my best story to put to the world. Had I pushed for my PERFECT story, a bit longer, I would’ve never been able to produce this post at all. That’s the power of “perfectionism based procrastination” as I call it.

Till today, I love making tweaks and changes to my doctoral work, my blogs, my workshop materials, my home decor, my cooking, my emails, my social media posts etc. etc. The list is long. But then, guess what… I still end up finding some proofing mistakes, or spelling mistakes, language errors or something or the other goes wrong, which I could’ve done better. So, what am I really chasing in the name of perfectionism? NOTHING. It is just procrastination. If I ever procrastinated to keep checking in, again and again, I would end up making more Continue reading “Perfectionism is a procrastination syndrome, to not get anything done?”

“My Dream or My Calling or My Passion:” What do those even mean?

I had conducted a small workplace performance research recently, and midst other things, I found that over 50% of people felt that they were in the wrong jobs or doing the work that wasn’t their dream job. Some even felt that they had multiple callings, which they were torn between. In so many cases, these thoughts can cause stress, unhappiness, jealousy, anger and even depression. Yes!!! And one of the biggest reasons for these negative emotions and behavioral patterns is that people are often unable to embrace or accept CHANGE (whether in their immediate/personal environment or social or even economic environment). Basically, when people don’t follow the work or the passion they’re meant to do, the above may happen. Let me explain…


How many times would you have heard this statement?: “Oh! (S)he was so good at this, wonder why (s)he isn’t pursuing that.” Or, someone would say, “I feel my true calling or passion is ___________ but I am stuck in this profession or stuck in life due to my circumstances.” I’ve seen so many people get frustrated with their situations and choices that they forget that there is, ACTUALLY a way out, to do anything that they want. Of course, there may be some trade-offs, which can be measured and evaluated.

Particularly in the context of a career, changes are always very scary. And for obvious reasons, right? We need the money to pay our bills! More often women in many societies have limited choices to make their careers thrive or choose what they’d truly desire. On the other side, men may often just stick around with a particular job they may not be very happy about.

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How being childlike can fuel your happiness, productivity, and creativity.

Have you ever felt elated while playing with water or rain… or smiled from your heart while thowing balloons in the air… or felt relaxed while popping up bubble a wrap… or blowing out water bubbles… or licking icing off the cupcakes… or mindlessly doodling? If the answer is YES to any of it, you too have had fun being childlike. That’s right!

You know, I love being childlike in so many ways because it fuels my creativity, and makes me more productive and of course, makes me so happy! And that’s exactly what this post today talks about.


Before we go any further, let me clarify that there’s a difference between what it means to be childish (which can be deadly) and child like (which is sometimes fun and can really fuel your creativity and productivity). Being childish makes you think that it’s OK to act however you want. But, when you’re childlike you embrace the positive end of the spectrum. When you are childish Continue reading “How being childlike can fuel your happiness, productivity, and creativity.”

How to be compassionate to others, who may be “douche.”

A couple of months back, a coaching client of mine, (an awesome human being, a lovely leader, beautiful businesswoman)… asked me a pretty genuine question. She said, “Priyanka, how can you be “nice” to someone who clearly hates you?” I looked at her for a bit and asked? What exactly happened. She told me, “I have a few folks in my social space, who continuously try to undermine my efforts and think no end of themselves. Recently, I had some big wins with a few personal and professional projects and I got some crazy flak, for reasons I JUST DONT UNDERSTAND. Some even went behind my back to inquire if, I was actually putting in the work to have the wins or was I just flaking it.” I hugged her and told her to “shake it off like T-Swift.” We both laughed about it… but then I shared my own story with her.


Of late, after bringing in a lot of changes in my life and work… I’ve been receiving a lot of flak from various sources. Often I receive indirect flak, regarding my work, my social posts, my workouts, and some other efforts that I’ve been consistently putting towards my own well-being. To give you an example, a person followed me on social media, only to criticize me (I wondered, why would anyone “opt-in,” in the first place if they don’t like someone). Another one was, regarding my fitness journey, a girl who follows me on Instagram, actually went to “check on me” with my trainer, if I was actually doing the work because it felt too good to be true. My trainer and I laughed so hard! It was hilarious!!!! I know!!! But these things happen. People’ve got enough time to NOT do the actual work but condemn those who are actually putting in the effort in different spheres of life.

Of course, by now, we know that these are just the naysayers, the ones who barely produce anything of their own but are the first ones to criticize the efforts of others, for whatever personal reasons. Even though there are many who would genuinely compliment and be happy for you, some can’t be nice. And it is the quintessential human nature to get affected by the naysayers and dwell on it. As Robin Sharma’s puts it, “leave the culture of mediocrity to get into the club of mastery.” As powerful as it may sound, it is quite difficult to practice. And those who do practice it to embrace a positive change, it may not be appreciated by many other. Let’s face it, people don’t respond to change very well.

Nevertheless, we do know that there are manyyyy who would genuinely compliment and be happy for us, for all our hard work and effort… So in this case, there are two kinds of situations, things we can control and things we cannot control. The things we can control are Continue reading “How to be compassionate to others, who may be “douche.””

How relaxation can actually make you more creative and energetic.

I’d always been the type who’d choose to continuously keep working. I took up two jobs when I was just in college, while everyone was having the time of their life: partying and hanging out with friends; I chose to sit back and find ways to either gain more knowledge, or study harder, or earn some money. I was constantly working. I remember my first year was wreck because of this.

I thought all those things, which a lot of my friends and colleagues did were a waste of my time. For this driven nature of mine, I came across as someone who was “snooty” or “snobby” to go out, or even rude, or someone who didn’t wanna make friends. [Well don’t take me wrong, I don’t think what others did was wrong, instead I feel I needed to do things differently. AND, I did make my set of groupies, who really understood why I did what I did. AND till date, I am super thick with them and a call away.]

Woman relaxing lying on a couch at home

But, for a very very very long time, I was the type who would choose to not have “fun”, or go out or really know what it meant to enjoy myself. I didn’t know what relaxation meant. I had a clear vision in my mind and I knew I had to achieve a my goals, faster. This attitude did help me initially, but it drained me completely, after a couple of years. I lost my mojo to work. Because of which, I started questioning myself. I started questioning my ambitions too. In that moment, I realized that I truly needed to sit back, take some time off and truly evaluate what I needed to do.

To truly explain where I’m going with this, I’ll tell you a story. I recently learned how to swim. And I am soooo thankful for my teacher because, I’ve picked up all the strokes quite well, in just one month’s time. I practice them daily. One day, while I was swimming, something hit me. I’d swim better if I am relaxed in water. I knowwww, it isn’t some rocket science or a big revelation, however, it did teach me a big lesson. When we’re in a relaxed state, (which comes from conscious decision making in the moment), we can achieve our targets better and more easily. Our life is fluid like the water, therefore, if we panic more, we don’t allow the environment around us to keep us afloat, instead we allow it to pull us down and drown us. When we are calm in the fluid state, we’re automatically buoyant, so we’re afloat.

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Let’s handle criticisms like a pro.

If you’ve ever struggled with criticisms and have found that you feel disheartened, dejected, lost, troubled, agitated, angry, bugged, jealous, even anxious, or have started doubting yourself… then my friend, this post is for you.


Before we head on the juicy stuff, I’ll specify what do I mean by the term “pro.” I’ll borrow the explanation, which Steven Pressfield uses in his books, War of Art and Turning Pro. He uses the word pro as an indicative of ‘a professional.’ When we are a professional, we are ready to leave the amateurish behavior behind us, i.e. we’re ready to deal with every situation in a way as though it pays us forward. And there is no scope for mediocrity, in our pursuit. We are ready to acknowledge the fact that we’re the best at what we pursue, in any sphere of life, which is why we’d hire ourselves to do the job we wanna do. And give it all that we can.

When we are pros, we understand that criticisms are simply comments that we may, or may not, consider. It depends upon the source or even the context. We know that external criticisms are primarily a reflection of that person’s thoughts or inner being. Instead of dwelling on someone’s disapproval, or condemnation, or evaluation, or eve jealousy, we need to truly evaluate how are we dealing with the situation? We know it that the only thing we can change or modify is our thoughts, reaction and action, in any given situation.

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Turn your negative emotions into positive results.

An ex-colleague came to me for some advice. She felt that she was always irritated with people around her, she was getting jealous of those in her immediate circle within the organization, who’d climbed the ladder and she felt she hadn’t. She said, she didn’t feel good about herself and constantly felt jealous and angry. She told me, “Priyanka I am stuck in my own negativity. I should’ve been further ahead by now.” She’d get so stuck with her own negative emotion that it even affected her work and added to her stress.

Business woman working at desk

I heard her out completely. Then, instead of simply giving her advice I shared a story. Recently, a family member really really close to me commented on my business and lifestyle. He said that I’m constantly in the kitchen and had no other work in life. I was wasting my intellect and time. At that time, I almost got offended [because not only do I run my own independent consultancy, I also do coaching, I’m doing my doctorate, and also taking care of my family & health (for which I, of course, need to be in my healthy kitchen and in the gym. My rituals are pretty much non-negotiable)]. After being angry for the whole day, I realized my negative emotion isn’t taking me anywhere. I also realized it is a reflection of my own insecurities and not his. It was only affecting me. After being in that angry state for a few hours, I turned my anger into a consumable fuel for Continue reading “Turn your negative emotions into positive results.”

Do we [really] need a social media detox?

I’ve been receiving a lot of emails these days with comments and some good questions from people who follow my blog. There was a common pattern that I observed. Apparently, EVERYONE IS SICK OF SOCIAL MEDIA!

Social Media Detox

That is true! And my initial reaction to this was, “Don’t blame it on the social media tools.” People are unable to control their own negative emotions and blaming it on social media. I also questioned myself, “how can people get sick of social media? It is not social media’s fault?” However, I cringed at the thought of this, shook my head and consciously changed my thoughts. I pulled myself back from my “tough” ENTJ personality to really understand the underlying feelings. I immediately reflected upon this, through an empathetic lens, “why would so many people feel irritated with someone else’s posts, pictures, and more?” The most common emotions that emerged from the “social-media-led comparison syndrome” were jealousy, the feeling of not being “good enough,” low self-confidence, less self-worth and in some cases clinical depression (above linked HBR study, states a few more).

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