The art of committing to the present moment.

The struggle is real! We’re either living in the past or the future. What happens NOW? It has been my personal journey to consciously choose to live every moment to the best of my ability. Trust me, it has not been easy for me. I’ve always been overly ambitious, multi-aspirational (while being good at all of them) and driven. But, I can say that this trait, even though seemed like a boon, was actually a bane. It constantly made me worry about my future, I never enjoyed the present moment and would more often ponder over my past mistakes. It isn’t the ideal life, right? As Steven Pressfield calls it, this behavior is just resistance showing up. It is a way to procrastinate the things that I wanted to do.

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As mentioned in the last blog of mine, the impermanence of life hit me hard when my mother in law passed away. In that month, when I was in mourning, I still had professional (coaching and ID clients) and academic commitments (my ongoing doctorate). I didn’t feel like doing anything. I felt drained and literally had no energy or capacity to work. But I had no option! When things have to be done, they get done! The energy then comes from within, even if it means I need to stay up till 4 in the morning. It took me a while to understand that all I can do is live in the moment and churn out the things, one at a time.

So, when one of my clients asked me that how do I commit to tasks, stay true all that I do… still eat clean, still deliver the work and academic projects, stay calm in tough situations and genuinely commit to people… I knew I had to write this post!

One thing is for sure, it all seems tough until Continue reading “The art of committing to the present moment.”

What did I do when Murphy ‘s law actually came true?

OK! Quick questions for you: How many times have you been in situations where things just didn’t work for you? Or that day, when everything seemed to be going? Or that project, where you couldn’t get the work done right?

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Well, a few weeks back I had to go for not just one but two pitches, (Oh! The time when it pours, it pours). I was super excited and kicked to present my work and hoping that I’d get the work, however, a few days before the pitch my laptop started getting, what I call, as “panic attacks.” The OS in my laptop got updated and since then the software in my system started acting up. My internet stopped working, my office tools didn’t function and I couldn’t access some of my files. I was practically staring at my screen, almost in tears, thinking what am I supposed to do NOW. It was a disaster! I experienced Murphy’s law at it’s best. And even though I am a good planner Continue reading “What did I do when Murphy ‘s law actually came true?”

You can be diplomatically honest at work and in life.

I recently revisited the movie Interstellar and there’s a dialogue between Cooper and Tars which goes something like this:

Cooper: Hey TARS, what’s your honesty parameter

TARS: 90 percent.

Cooper: 90 percent?

TARS: Absolute honesty isn’t always the most diplomatic nor the safest form of communication with emotional beings.

Cooper: Okay, 90 percent it is.

It caught my attention and got me thinking in multiple ways. I find TARS absolutely charming and genuinely fun in the movie. If you’ve seen the film, you may remember the above scene. It got me thinking about the way we conduct our relationships, whether personally or professionally. We often alter the way we think and feel in our hearts, for whatever reasons, and become dishonest in our responses. How many times have you questioned yourselves if “honesty is the best policy?” This is one statement that has been told to us since we were kids. We might have even followed it when we were young but wonder what happens to us as we grow up.

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Well, what if I were to tell you that you could get your way around situations without being dishonest?  I’m here to get you out of that sticky situation where you feel obliged to not speak your mind and heart. Here are five factors for you to consider:-

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How to Become a Lifelong Learner in 5 Steps

Now that we know what makes a lifelong learner, let’s dig deep to understand the steps that you can take to become one. My guest blogger today, Melinda Markfelder, provides strategic steps to become a lifelong learner.

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Melinda Markfelder is an Instructional Designer for KMS Solutions in Virginia, USA.tdndbwhn She loves all forms of learning and has a passion for helping others create a well-oiled training machine. Melinda has a Master’s in Education and has been in the education field for 6 years. She enjoys camping and music festivals and wants a home library that looks like it belongs in a castle. You can follow Melinda on Twitter @MelMarkDesigns or follow her blog at: melindamarkfelder.com
Read what Melinda has to say about how you could be a lifelong learner (it’s absolutely crucial).

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As a professional in any field, personal and professional growth should constantly be on your mind. Do something for your career every single day – even if it takes just five minutes. iStock_39433564_XLARGE.jpgI’ve put together a list below of five things that Continue reading “How to Become a Lifelong Learner in 5 Steps”

5 Tricks to Boost Your Learning.

These days, lifelong learning is not an option but a necessity. In an ever growing competitive market, no matter which field of work we are in, we have to ensure we’re continuously learning, enhancing our skills and making every day count. In this process, do we ever question ourselves – how can we boost our learning? I certainly do and my guest blogger today, Emma Webber, is here to tell us about the same. Read on…

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Emma Weber is CEO and founder of Lever – Transfer of Learning and author of Turning Learning into Action: emma-weber-e1424409764779A Proven Methodology for Effective Transfer of Learning (2014, Kogan Page).  Emma’s firm belief, and the platform on which she has built her successful global business, is that the key aim of learning in the workplace is to create tangible business benefits. She established Lever – Transfer of Learning and the Turning Learning into Action™ (TLA) methodology to help organizations and their employees convert learning to effective action back on the job. A recognized authority on the transfer of learning, Emma has been a guest speaker on learning effectiveness at conferences in Australia, New Zealand, Malaysia and the USA. Emma’s second book, Making Change Work: How to Create Behavioural Change in Organizations to Drive Impact and ROI, co-authored with Jack and Patti Phillips of the ROI Institute, was published on May 2016 by Kogan Page.

This is what she has to say…

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You may be a great learner already – but are you using what you’ve learnt?

Attending a skills training or personal development workshop may give you information but it will only become a useful learning experience when it becomes your new way of doing things.

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Use these 5 tricks to create real impact from your learning experiences. Continue reading “5 Tricks to Boost Your Learning.”

9 communications mistakes you might be making everyday.

Did you just roll your eyes and did you think to yourself that you know what is going to come next in this post? Well, if you assumed you knew, then this is definitely the stuff you’d want to read. Assumptions, especially in communication, can be the biggest mistake you could make! Whether at work or in our personal lives, we all have either been victims or culprits of bad communications. Sometime we term them as “misunderstandings” sometimes we term them as “miscommunication” or just a bad day, filled with emotions that spilled all over.

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Here’s an actual scenario that happened with my friend. Continue reading “9 communications mistakes you might be making everyday.”

Getting Rid of One’s Own Small Thinking!

I’m a big fan of Eckhart Tolle‘s ideologies and his teachings. One thing that has stuck on with me is this: “Whatever you fight, you strengthen, and what you resist, persists.” and this  mentality exists in us without even we realizing it.

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I was in a meeting the other day and a woman who is a fellow instructional designer had joined me. I happened to raise a conversation regarding she being absent in communications in Continue reading “Getting Rid of One’s Own Small Thinking!”

How to avoid conflict at workplace and in personal life.

I said, “I would never do that.” and my friend nodded and replied, “I agree, me neither.” We smiled at each other while having our Skype call as though ours was the final word on the topic of discussion. We were talking about a conflict of opinion I had with another friend. I always make an attempt to stay in touch, while there are some who don’t. While having this conversation,  I said, “I don’t know how he (my friend) cannot stay in touch? Just send a chat or text message or call? It is so much more easier than ever to be connected in today’s day and age. I would never behave so stupidly.

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That night, I laughed at myself thinking about the irony of “being different” yet wanting others to be aligned in the same thinking as ours. I wanted my friend to empathize with my thoughts, since I thought I was Continue reading “How to avoid conflict at workplace and in personal life.”

Thinking process, emotions, and your productivity!

Last year, I’d read The Free Mind and The Six Thinking Hats by Edward De Bono. While I was reading it, I got reminded of a beautiful learning experience I had (which I’m sharing  with you now).

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I am the kind of person who loves good and meaningful cinema, especially animated films. Animated films would almost always have a deeper message and teaches Continue reading “Thinking process, emotions, and your productivity!”

Are you able to balance your work and life?

Maintaining a nearly perfect work-life balance is a hot button topic for learning and development professionals, as much as it is a hot button topic for individuals, working across sectors and industries.

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So, here’s something I want to share, before I move on with the actionable stuff! I was working as a publishing editor for a while and the working hours were way too erratic! I would leave for work at 8 am and reach home everyday, latest by 10pm (i.e. a regular day). Thankfully, if I had a “light day” I’d have time to Continue reading “Are you able to balance your work and life?”